Mother of The Bride Speech


March 30, 2019

Good evening everyone. Welcome!

My name is Rosie, and I am the mother of the bride.

I would like to thank you for joining us today,

Especially those who have traveled a long way.

We could not be more honored by your presence here

 To celebrate the marriage of my daughter Sabine

 And her other half Sean.

There is a reason I am giving this speech today

And that is because Sabine always speaks highly of me.

I figure her wedding day is the perfect occasion

Not only to return the favor,

But also to shine a light on my daughter,

And express my pride and my love for the new couple.

My speech is like a mini skirt,

Long enough to cover the essentials,

And short enough to hold your attention.

Sabine, I’m going to take this opportunity

To apologize for one thing that I did to you

 While you were growing up.

I am sorry for making you go to bed

Every night at 8:30 from preschool

Until you graduated high school,

As it may have helped make you

 Who you are today.

Sabine is the sunshine to all the people who know her

And truly, the most beautiful gift

And blessing I have ever been given.

It is with magnificent love and delight

That I stand here today

To wish my beautiful daughter,

A blessed life, full of happiness and joy.

As a child Sabine surrounded herself with a lot of friends.

Some of whom are here today.

She was always happy,

Always finding good in all human beings

Whether they are classmates, neighbors,

Acquaintances and friends,

Everyone she meets is touched by her kindness.

Sabine, as a little girl,

I remember how talkative you were in kindergarten

To the point that Sister Isabel who was the principal

Of Corpus Christie Catholic School,

Rewarded you for being

The most talkative student in the classroom.

She gave you a card and

On the cover page was a parrot.

If you knew how to read between the lines,

She meant to say you talked like a parrot.

It’s amazing how you have grown

From a talkative, pretty little girl

Into a beautiful, intelligent, caring,

Respectful and hardworking young woman.

I am incredibly lucky to have you

As a daughter as well as a friend

Who I value and treasure with all my heart.

I understand that I can no longer hold your hand

 To walk you to class every morning,

But I will always hold you onto my heart.

I would like to say a few words to Sean’s parents

Cathy and Mitchell Stallings

For doing such a great job

 Raising such a wonderful son.

I couldn’t wish for a better man

 For Sabine than Sean.

I would also like to take a moment

To welcome Sean into the family

And thank him for the joy and happiness

He brings my daughter.

I was delighted when Sabine met Sean

And brought him home for the first time.

Sean, you may have not married

The woman you want to live with.

However, you have married the woman

 You cannot live without.

Now that the two of you become one

And are heading on an amazing journey together,

 I hope the love you share will make you feel

Cherished but not spoiled,

 Directed but not controlled,

Wanted but not possessed.

The book of marriage has many chapters.

Even though some of them are difficult,

They can be easy to understand 

It depends on how you read them.

As you start reading the first chapter from this day forward,

Remember that saying,

“There is no such thing as a perfect marriage”.

Nevertheless, when you make mistakes,

Always take steps to correct them.

My greatest advices to you are that,

When times get tough, remember your wedding day.

Remember the promises you made

And the vows you exchanged.

Use the light you have found in each other

To brighten your love and bring it fresh charm.

A marriage is like a partnership

Whose purpose is the management of a shared life.

You are partners, not adversaries in a contest.

You will either win together or you will lose together.

Treat your partner as you would like to be treated.

Go out of your way to make your partner feel unique.

Be completely transparent with each other.

Be your partner’s mentor and learn from each other.

Consider your partner’s feelings when making big decisions.

And more importantly, communicate with your partner

Because poor communication is the number one weakness

 Of even the most successful marriage.

 Success in marriage is not only finding the right person,

It is being the right person.

Sabine and Sean

You have my support and love for you as a couple,

And as a family.

With all my heart I congratulate the commitment

 You have made to each other today.

May you both have a long, happy, healthy life,

And a love that grows stronger

With each passing day!

Rosie Bourget

What happens if I can’t forgive someone?


Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who’s hurt you doesn’t admit wrong. If you find yourself stuck:

  • Practice empathy. Try seeing the situation from the other person’s point of view.
  • Ask yourself why he or she would behave in such a way. Perhaps you would have reacted similarly if you faced the same situation.
  • Reflect on times you’ve hurt others and on those who’ve forgiven you.
  • Write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation or talk with a person you’ve found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an impartial loved one or friend.
  • Be aware that forgiveness is a process, and even small hurts may need to be revisited and forgiven over and over again.

What are the effects of holding a grudge?


If you’re unforgiving, you might:

  • Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience
  • Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can’t enjoy the present
  • Become depressed or anxious
  • Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you’re at odds with your spiritual beliefs
  • Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others

Why is it so easy to hold a grudge?


Being hurt by someone, particularly someone you love and trust, can cause anger, sadness and confusion. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.

Some people are naturally more forgiving than others. But even if you’re a grudge holder, almost anyone can learn to be more forgiving.

8 mars, journée Internationale de la Femme


Par Rosie Bourget

Le mois de mars c’est le mois de la femme, mais il y a une journée spécialement destinée à toutes les femmes du monde, c’est le 8 mars. Est-ce que cette journée aide à reconnaitre l’importance et la contribution de la femme dans la société actuelle? Quelles avancées ont été faites ? Pourquoi on continue à traiter la femme comme des objets ? comment se fait-il qu’en plein 21eme siècle il y a tant de femmes illettrées dans le monde ? Quelles actions pour améliorer la situation de la femme ?

A quoi sert la journée internationale de la femme ?

Commençons par le commencement. L’origine du 8 mars remonte à une manifestation d’ouvrières américaines du textile en 1857, événement qui n’a en réalité jamais eu lieu. Il s’agit sûrement d’un clin d’œil de féministes américaines qui, dans les années 1950, veulent à la fois intégrer cette journée dans le contexte américain et rendre un hommage à Clara Zetkin, 1857 étant son année de naissance. L’origine de cette journée s’ancre bel et bien dans les luttes ouvrières et les nombreuses manifestations de femmes réclamant le droit de vote, de meilleures conditions de travail et l’égalité entre les hommes et les femmes, qui agitèrent l’Europe, au début du XXe siècle. La « Journée internationale de la femme » est maintenant reconnue officiellement par les Nations unies en 1977, et en France en 1982. 

La Journée de la femme est une excellente occasion de parler de la cause des femmes et de revendiquer l’équilibre.  Le moment de se faire entendre, d’appeler à des changements. Tout dépend du pays, tout dépend de l’angle sous lequel on se place et cette journée n’a rien à voir avec la couleur de peau, le niveau social et économique, etc. dans certains pays ce jour est considéré comme un jour férié. Bref, cette journée est une fenêtre de visibilité permettant de mettre en avant les inégalités et injustices faites aux femmes uniquement à cause de leur genre.

En1993, les Nations unies a publié une déclaration sur l’élimination de la violence à l’égard des femmes, autour de cinq points: sécurité, intégrité, liberté, dignité, égalité. Cinq mots fondamentaux et universels pour décliner tout ce qui fait encore défaut à tant de femmes. Est-ce cette déclaration a mis fin à la violence (sexuelle, physique, psychologique, verbale…) à l’égard des femmes ? En ma qualité de travailleuse sociale, cette déclaration est nulle et non avenue. Est-ce les hommes cessent de rabaisser les femmes, de minimiser leur estime de soi ? Lorsqu’un homme (particulièrement le noir qui n’accorde pas d’importance à l’éducation, à intellectualisme, au professionnalisme) empêche son épouse de poursuivre ses études, ce n’est pas de la violence ? Ce n’est pas sans raison qu’il y a tant de femmes intellectuelles qui vivent dans le célibat. De nos jours il est difficile de trouver un homme de taille. S’il n’est pas dépourvu de tout, il est homosexuel. Qui pis est, ceux-là qui n’ont rien à offrir sont toujours à la recherche des infirmières. C’est comme si elles se réveillent un bon matin et elles deviennent infirmières. Comme dit l’adage, « mieux vaut être seul que d’être mal accompagné. »

Femmes, des préjugés et stéréotypes toujours persistants

Femme = famille, dit-on ! Alors qu’elles vous donnent naissance, elles portent vos bébés, elles prennent soin de vous 24 heures par jours, malades ou pas, fatiguées ou tristes, elles ont pour devoir de satisfaire vos besoins sexuelles. Toujours est-il que vous les traitez comme des objets, comme des domestiques pour ne pas dire des animaux. Souvent on vous entend dire, « les femmes ne valent pas grand-chose, ce sont des bonnes à rien. Elles ne sont pas faites pour la politique, encore moins l’informatique de haut niveau. Une femme au volant c’est dangereux. Elles ne sont bonnes qu’à cuisiner et au lit, incompétentes dans la prise de décision,  et elles sont si faibles en plus, donc elles ont besoin d’aide. » Quel homme ne porte pas préjudice à la femme, en particulier ceux qui sont dépourvus de bon sens, qui ne sont pas sûrs d’eux-mêmes ? Malheureusement, il n’y en a pas. A moins que vous soyez l’exception qui confirme la règle.

Pourquoi attendre le 8 mars de chaque année pour vénérer la femme ?

La journée de la femme devrait s’appliquer tous les jours. Il ne s’agit pas de féminisme tant que d’humanisme. L’important est somme toute de reconnaître que les uns ne seraient pas grand-chose sans les autres et réciproquement. Cette journée de la femme, de toutes les femmes doit être l’occasion de réfléchir à la condition féminine aujourd’hui. Et j’ajouterais en tant que femme que ce 8 mars est une journée pour dire aux Femmes : « félicitations, vous êtes formidables. Vos efforts que ce soit en orient, en occident ou sur le reste de la planète paient chaque jour un peu plus. » Le jour où la condition des femmes dans le monde sera respectée cette journée et toute la polémique qui tourne autour n’aura plus lieu d’être.

Chronique 21 : « J’arrête d’être parfaite », Cindy Ghys, aux éditions Eyrolles


Cet article tombe a pic, je ne peux m’empecher de le partager sur on blog.

Les secrets pour rayonner

Bonjour, Bonsoir,

Et si « on se foutait un peu la paix » ? Et si on mettait de côté le perfectionnisme ? Et si on enclenchait le mode « joie » ?

Nous aimerions toutes (et tous) choisir plus souvent la joie, oser des folies, agir face à la peur, être audacieuse, sortir davantage de notre zone de confort, s’offrir des énièmes chances, être plus douce avec nous-mêmes.

« Les femmes ne sont pas malheureuses de leurs imperfections, mais de vouloir être parfaites dans un monde qui ne l’est pas. Donc il est temps de revoir ses standards et de libérer, délivrer les princesses parfaites. Et si le froid de l’imperfection était le prix de la liberté ? 

Je te vois venir avec tes talons hauts en train de marmonner que renoncer au perfectionnisme est le meilleur moyen d’obtenir la médiocrité. Entendons-nous, cela ne signifie pas tomber dans le clair-obscur de la face cachée…

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Three Simple Ways to Enhance Mental Health Resilience


From Psychology Today

There is a consensus among professionals that ‘mental health’ is a positive state where an individual is flourishing, thriving and meeting their full potential in life. There are many cognate terms for ‘mental health’ including subjective well-being, quality of life or simply happiness.

Another term commonly used in relation to positive mental health is ‘resilience’. This phrase is actually borrowed from engineering, where it refers to the ability of a physical material to withhold external stress. A resilient material thus has hardiness, flexibility and strength.

What is Mental Health Resilience?

In psychiatry, the phrase is used similarly, referring to the ability of an individual to handle stress and adversity. It is sometimes referred to as ‘bouncing back’ and can be particularly important after people have experienced difficult circumstances such as losing a job, divorce or bereavement.

Research on resilience indicates that it is not a fixed attribute, but can change over time. Indeed, individuals can cultivate resilience, though this can require time and effort.

In fact, the road to resilience often involves pain and struggle, as does the mastery of any new life-skill. For example, learning to ride a bike often involves falls, cuts and bruises, but results in a new-found ability and autonomy. The same can be said for the resilience-enhancing strategies described below.

Skill Acquisition

Evidence suggests that the acquisition of new skills can play a key role in enhancing resilience. Skill-acquisition helps develop a sense of competency and mastery, which can be deployed in the face of other challenges. This can also increase self-esteem and problem-solving ability.

Skills to be learnt depends very much on individual circumstances. For some, this will mean learning cognitive and emotional skills that may help everyday functioning, for example active listening. For others it may involve pursuits, hobbies, or activities that involve the mastery of new competencies.

This is explored in the insightful documentary below, detailing how the acquisition of art skills enhanced resiliency among a group of people with mental illness. Interestingly, skill-acquisition in a group setting maybe especially effective, as this gives an added benefit of social support, which also fosters resiliency.

Goal setting

Much research indicates that the setting and meeting of goals facilitates the development of resilience. This helps develop will-power, as well as the ability to create and execute an action plan. Goals may vary in size, depending on individual circumstances, but often involve a series of short achievable steps.

For one person, it may be related to physical health, for example exercising more regularly. For another, it may be related to social or emotional goals, such as visiting family and friends more frequently. Goal setting that involves skill-acquisition, for example learning a new language, will have a double benefit.

Interestingly, some research indicates that goal-setting involving a sense of purpose and meaning beyond the individual self (e.g. volunteering or religious involvement) can be particularly useful for resiliency. This may give a deeper sense of coherence and connection, valuable in times of trouble.

Controlled exposure

This involves the slow and gradual exposure to anxiety-provoking situations, thus helping individuals overcome debilitating fears. Numerous studies indicate that controlled exposure can foster resilience. Controlled exposure can offer a triple benefit when it involves skill-acquisition and goal-setting.

For example, public speaking is a valued skill that can help people advance in life. People who are fearful of public speaking can acquire this skill through setting small goals involving controlled exposure. They can start with an audience of one or two friends, progressively expanding their audience over time.

A controlled exposure action-plan can be self-initiated, or developed in tandem with a therapist trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Again, successful efforts will result in increased self-esteem, as well as an enhanced sense of mastery and autonomy. This can be harnessed to surmount future challenges.

Conclusion

An amassed body of research suggests that resilience can be developed and cultivated over the life course through simple (though challenging) self-initiated activities. This often involves discipline, will-power and hard-work, but the results will be bountiful: greater autonomy, mastery and confidence.